I was watching on BBS TV a little girl make a speech at the end of the Police Youth Partnership Programme, and I was appalled at what she said.
The students were taken to drayangs, and this is what she had to say about them:
“All the body parts (of the women working there) were not properly covered, and maybe that is why we are having an increase in number of rape cases”.
Not that I blame the little girl- this is what we are teaching our children, then. That if someone attacks you, if you are a victim of rape or molestation, maybe you should look at yourself and see if the fault wasn’t yours.
Most of the rape cases that have come up in the past years were against minors, some very very young. Are they somehow ‘asking for it’?
Why do people commit crimes? Why do we, as a society, need to find reasons to defend criminals? Is it not the grossest injustice, to the victim, firstly as a result of the crime, and secondly because we would try to ‘share the blame’.
Rape is a crime that has been associated with power rather than sexual issues. The hypothesis is that people commit rapes not to satisfy lust, or whatever, but to assert power. A lecherous thought does not make someone a criminal, the act does.
In Bhutan especially, this is clear. Victims are those vulnerable, uneducated girls, mostly rural, or children.
Why is rape a crime? As opposed to sex? Rape is a horror because the woman in question is physically attacked, but also humiliated in the worst sense possible. And the difference between consensual sex and rape is that the victim dissented.
If someone forcefully has sex with someone, it is rape, it doesn’t not matter whether the woman is his wife, or a prostitute.
We need to teach our young people their rights. And yes, if they wear small clothes, maybe their parents will frown upon it, maybe some people may not like it. But it is their choice. They have a right to wear small clothes and not be raped, molested, or harassed.
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well said! 3 cheers.
ReplyDeleteshe wears little and gets teased, that's different thing.but getting raped, surely she wasnt asking for it.
oh by the way ladies, if boys evetease you , dont just look back and shout "tshoe mata mey" and run along... you have to go talk to them and remind them that they've just committed a crime and it is punishable by law of the land
Interesting!
ReplyDeleteReminds me of the times I wore skimpy clothes, however, I didn’t wear them because I wished to use my right (wasn’t even aware of it back then). I just wanted to look good and sexy. Simple as that… And, the fact is the more sexy and good a girl/woman looks, the more boys/men are attracted to you and come nearer to you. I think that’s a fact we cannot deny, can we? Why be defensive, mena? Keeping our right to wear what we wish to wear, we females have to also be conscious of the attention it draws. It is true that nobody has the right to rape anybody, but those who are vulnerable (particularly female) must be aware of their own vulnerability and know how to manage it. I think the girl who gave the speech was right in making us aware of the kinds of things that CAN lead to rapes. I don’t know if it was something she was taught or something she herself observed. If we females want to look good and sexy and attract the opposite sex, we better also be aware of the danger signs when we mix with them. Are we prepared to defend/protect ourselves if things begin to get ugly? This is what’s important, I feel. I say this because I am a woman.
Tshering! what you're saying is absolutely right. i thought of writing but you have already written up short and comprehensive. Author you said "..Rape is a horror because the woman in question is physically attacked.,.." The physical attack comes after physical attract. The girls make up and all dressing style is meant for attracting her opposite mate. It is biologically and psychologically proven one. And the forbidden intimacy is a inner longing for every man. The crossing limits of girl offers golden opportunity to him..
ReplyDeleteSorry, Still disagree. Look at all the rape cases in Bhutan. Any girl wearing skimpy clothes coming out from space 34 being raped? No, its the cowgirls who go out to the fields, school girls coming back home, and sometimes even three year olds and eleven month olds. None of them wearing 'makeup' or 'skimpy clothes'. Its time we stopped making excuses for criminals.
ReplyDeleteI would still say we should be prepared to protect ourselves when we go out dating or partying in skimpy clothes. We in Bhutan MAY NOT have records of urban skimpy clothed girls being raped, but I think we should learn from such cases in other countries. I'm not talking about trying to solve a problem that's already emerged, but rather trying to prevent the problem. That's what I call being proactive with our individual responsibilities.
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